
1 Timothy 4:12 - “Let no one look down on your youthfulness, but rather in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, show yourself an example of those who believe.”
Birds are probably the most talkative animals around. They are constantly singing and chirping. Just like birds, humans are pretty talkative, too. We are constantly making noise and trying to be heard. With all this talking that we do, we must realize that we are going to be heard. Someone is going to hear us, someone is going to listen. Because of this, we need to be careful of what say. We need to be good Christian examples with our speech.
There’s this thing called the Five Love Languages. It’s supposed to be for married couples but I honestly think it’s good for anyone to do. It helps you figure out your “love language”, or in other words - what makes you feel loved? Is it gifts - do you feel loved when people buy you things? Is it service - do you feel loved when people serve you? Is it quality time - do you feel loved when you have a good conversation with someone, or go on a one-on-one date? Is it touch - do you feel loved holding hands and high fives? Is it words of affirmation - do you feel loved when people give you compliments or say nice things?
For me, my love language is words of affirmation. Some people work harder when their friends say “You can do better than that! Don’t be a wimp!” I, on the other hand, work harder when people say “You’re doing so great! Try your best!” It’s just who I am. So when people say mean things, it hurts my feelings a lot.
What you say is very important, even if your love language isn’t words. Words can encourage and build up, or insult and bring down. It even says so in the Bible!
Proverbs 18:21 - “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.”
Proverbs 15:1 - “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
I don’t know about you but I am not the most popular person in town. I am not the star basketball player or the most famous girl in town? Why would anyone look up to me? Why would I be an example to anyone? If you’re in the same boat as me (unpopular and kinda lame) then think about everyone you come in contact with. The kids I teach in Sunday School, the kids I babysit, my nieces and nephews, and even my older sister.
Because we are all examples to someone, we need to realize that what we say is really important. Especially as Christians, people watch us to make sure that we are living out what we claim to believe.
So if we go around swearing and saying nasty things, what will people think of us? If we do that, our little siblings or kids we babysit will figure that it’s okay to swear. That’s not being a good Christian example.
Okay. No swearing or nasties. But what about being negative? If we go around saying “I hate this” or “That’s so stupid”, what will people think of us? How can we praise God and claim that He gives us joy when we are complaining about everything and insulting everyone?
Alright. So no swearing, no negativity. But what about gossip? Spreading rumors is just as bad as swearing and being negative. Gossip involves insulting people, making fun of people, and talking behind people’s backs. We should be encouraging people, not bringing them down.
You see, even if you’re just kidding, you could really be hurting someone’s feelings. My friend said something today, which was probably supposed to be taken as a joke, and it hurt me so badly that I wanted to cry. You need to be careful with your word. You can break someone’s heart just by being rude, even if you’re “just kidding.”
Luke 6:45 - “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”
That’s the verse that gets me every time. If I speak evil things, discouraging things, negative things..then that means that my heart is evil. If I speak happy things, encouraging things, positive things..that means my heart is good. As Christians, I think it is pretty important that we have good hearts and good words.
Now take a step back and examine yourself. Think of the way you talk. Do you whine and complain about every little thing? Do you insult people “kiddingly”? Do you find yourself swearing and saying bad things? Pray and ask God to help you speak only holy things.
Ephesians 4:29 - “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
Because as Christians, we need to honor God with everything we do - and that includes our speech. God wants us to build each other up and encourage, not insult and complain.
People are looking up to you and listening to what you say. Be a good example. Please God with your words.
Psalm 19:14 - “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.”






